Is there any problem with me or is it their misunderstanding?

I am living in my relatives house for my studies. When I come from college I just wash my face and read my books. I don't go and sit with them and talk. Even I have no work to do I won't join with them and spend time with them. I would prefer playing games on mobile to talk to them. I am a kind of reserved one. I just feel somewhat shy to talk to my relatives whom I don't know much. So I prefer to be silent in front of them. I talk freely with my family members, well known friends. My silence in front of them became a big problem to my realtives. They are asking me why don't I watch telivision with them, why don't I talk freely with them. Is this really a problem with me...? I can't believe this because I am free with my family and friends. If this is a problem, please show me a way to overcome it.

Is there any problem with me or is it their misunderstanding?
Adhitya,you are staying in your relatives house.You have to mix with them and move with them nicely.You have to ask whether they need any help from you in the domestic work and any work which can be done by you and which is reasonable without affecting your studies.You have to spend time with them.You may be giving some money for them every month but always remember that you should have good relationship with your relatives also.


My advicxe is,never stay in a relatives house.Stay in a room or independent house as familiarity breeds contempt.
Reply:dude you are living with them they are very nice people inviting you to join with them to watch tv. yes you are behaving stupid. you should be friendly and social with them if you cannot go find other house leave them
Reply:It's not really a problem. It's just you don't know them well and tend to shy away from them. However, since you are living with them it would probably be a good idea to make an effort to spend some time with them so they know you're trying and don't think you're too good for them or anything.
Reply:You have to get over the shyness. You can't live in their house and remain a stranger specially since they are your relatives.





Talk to your family and ask them to talk to your relatives and explain that you are feeling somewhat shy because you don't know them very well.





Don't hurt their feelings by remaining reserved. Have some conversations with them and get to know them... it is the least you can do to show gratitude for their help.
Reply:hey i would suggest u to just go %26amp; communicate with them, let it be even a small hello, i am sure tht u communicate very well with ur friendz just the same way communicate with them, gradually u'll automatically feel free to talk to them, u just need to express urself after all even they r humans %26amp; all humans love people who r able to express themselves.
Reply:Please understand that you are staying in their House and they have done a favour of allowing you to stay with them and are really looking for your attitude to be grateful to them for what they have done for you.





First and foremost I think you should put your self in their shoes and try to see the situation from their View, this will give u answers as to how to handle the situation





Secondly from the scene you describe it sounds like there are two parties living under one roof forcefully, if that were to happen in your house you would also feel disturbed





I conclude you should try to open up and try to be a Little friendly and see the pleasure of making the others Happy too and you will see the WHOLE picture will change





By Sacrificing a few minutes you will be able to grab HOURS and DAYS of HAPPINESS





Try u will succeed and feel HAPPY


(please remember me if u do)
Reply:I totally understand what you mean because I am the same way. I think your relatives may think you are acting like you're too good for them, they probably think you're rude and they believe that you distance yourself from them as if you don't want to be a part of the extended family. I suggest you explain to them that you're too shy too make conversation and if you're not specifically invited by them to join them, then you don't know how to go about it. If you let them know that you're just shy and not snobbish, I am sure they'll understand and do their best to help you overcome that with them.
Reply:I would say, it's not really a problem for them, they are probably thinking that you have a problem with them. They just want to spend some time with you and get to know you better. I bet if you start talking to them more, you will start feeling more comfortable with them and in no time, you will enjoy being around them.
Reply:i dont think this is a problem with you at all..i think it is something you will advenally overcome. listen i have the same problem when my dad gets a girlfriend and even after a year or 2 i still am silent around her. even with some family i am like that.i think my problem is i get nervous and i think they dont like me so i dont really talk to them mabe thats your problem 2. If you are a teen then it is proubly just a stage.i hope my answer has helped
Reply:It is an big problem because ur r staying in ur relative house .If u keep silent they just think that there relative had left an lifeless item in there house for few months. there is an big problem also they think that what type of parents they r they had not given any minimum comman senses to u . and they also think that how ur parents had brought u up like this . so please spare some time with them atleast for half and hour they will bee no problem
Reply:its not problem .its just tht u are not open with them. it will take time. start talking with them slowly u like it. i know i m also reserverd with new people when i meet. but then i slowlly as days goes i bcome comfortable with them. :) so just start talking with them. start frm small small things. jokes. share ur funny movement outside u saw or happend with u . just then u start liking it. :) al the best
Reply:yes, its with u and not with them.


when u r in someones home, u need to be like their family member.