What effect do you think being born gay and your family forcing you to be Christian has on a person?

For me I was raised in a Christian family. I was told all my life Gays are bad and burn in Hell. That the worst thing I could do was telling my parents I was gay. That gays are not normal. Seeing a gay on the street and hearing my family say "which is the man and which is the woman" and laughing about it. Calling it sick. Hearing my church speak against homosexuality. Hearing how bad they are and that they are sinners and will go to Hell.





This would be called abuse in my book. One that hurt me deeply. I always knew I was gay. Yet I had to face the mountain of hate that was put in front of me. It was hard to accept myself when I was taught hate against it all my life.





However I am a very strong person. I always put myself first and said this is not right. I always believed in myself. I accepted I was gay and paid no attention to the hate. I put myself though college. I listened to my family talk behind my back. I heard the hate from those around me.

What effect do you think being born gay and your family forcing you to be Christian has on a person?
hello,


i think very confusing,painful,and something that could take a lifetime to overcome.


please dont think this is meant as an offense.please.


over time,i have noticed that you seem a little preoccupied about being gay.


i only notice this because as a former drug addict/alcoholic,i was similar in my preoccupation in how people viewed me,or more importantly,how i viewed myself.


obviously,i was looked at in a negative way by many,and downright despised by others.


i applaud you in your perseverence to overcome the ignorance this world has to offer.


i have since moved into a better spiritual direction,concentrating on my own personal improvment.trust me when i say,that even now,in my own church,some still dont get it.they look at my tatooes,and hear of my past,and then look down like im invisisble when i walk by.


i believe folks like that have some spiritual growth of their own to work on.and so i take comfort in my lord that he has helped me become the person i first sought out to be.


i truly hope you find life to be a gift full of joy.


and may god bless you as he has blessed me my friend!


im sorry in advance if i have offended you.its truly not my intention.
Reply:'Being born gay'? It seems that you're blaming a specific party for your gayness. Being gay is always a choice. just like being into a religion a choice. you can be born into a family of christians, but it is still your choice to stay in it or not.
Reply:That's exactly what I'm still having to go through right now. I haven't told them yet, but it still hurts every time they make a gay joke, it still hurts every time my dad sees a gay couple and just won't shut up about it. When I went to church, you know the ever-so loving place where the so-called Christians worship, the preacher always talked bad about gays. Once, he even had the nerve to say, and remember this is the preacher of a 3000+ congregation of "Christians", he said that AIDS was "God's" punishment to homosexuals! Good job with your fight and staying proud of the way you were born. Maybe I'll come out soon, but I just don't know...
Reply:I think that any time a person feels forced to be something they aren't it is detrimental to that person. However, as you've pointed out, it can also make you very strong when you have reached the point where you can break free of the situation. I also believe that it can make you more compassionate in general; having been treated badly, you know what it's like, and you are able to identify with (and possibly help) others who have likewise been treated badly.
Reply:Your parents are very judgemental. Im a nonpracticing homosexual but not because people say its wrong, but because I READ FOR MYSELF that it is wrong. But just because youre gay doesnt mean youre going to hell. We have this thing called "Free Will" which in simpler terms is self control. Ive been gay my whole life so as far as what I think about being born gay, I dont know. Even if I was, its not up to me to question GOD. It is up to me to use his gift.
Reply:I went through similar experiences. Many who go through aren't strong enough to survive. Many are driven to suicide by the thoughtlessness of others.





I strongly recommend that all parents of gay children read the following book. It may open some eyes before it's too late. (Used copies available for under a dollar.)





Edit: for you who insist it's a choice: are you serious? WHY would anyone choose to be gay, knowing the HELL you people put us through???? No, it's not a choice. And it's not a sin, either (if you take the time to check the Hebrew and Greek).
Reply:I have always wished that people would just except each other. Whether it's race, religion, or sexual preferance. People should not force religion, or sexual preference on their child. As far as going to hell... well i wish people would realize that it doesn't matter if you believe there is a hell or not, it is not their place to condemn another to an unfortunatr after life. Why do people worry about other peoples lives before and after death? How is that their place to judge?





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Reply:what your parents did is emotional abuse and was sick of them to do so. They should be proud that you are gay because you are born the way you are and should be who you are. There will always be those nutbags out there that use religion as an excuse to bring down the gays.
Reply:My family is homophobic as well. They consider being gay a mental disease, and a major sin. I used to feel so hurt by it. Hearing my own family saying that "Gays and lesbians make their stomachs turn", and calling gay men "Half men", "sodomites" and "f@gs", while their "f@g" son is hearing all of this. I used to hate myself for it. As I grew up I very, very slowly started accepted myself. But only *really* accepted myself just 2 years ago. Before that I wanted to die or become straight. Now I couldn't be happier to be who I am, and wouldn't change it for the world even if I could. Now when I hear them spew hate, I laugh for their ignorance. My poor, poor brainwashed family. I haven't told them, and I don't want to.


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Reply:I Agree with K J V I don't believe people are born gay I believe that they have a perverted spirit, and they can be delivered from it if the give it to God,





God never intended his children to be the way that they are, in all of us we are sinners, we all fall short of the glory of God.





God don't hate gay people he hates the sin. He hates all sin, lyeing, stealing, etc but we all have that opportunity to Repent of our sins, you know our flesh is weak and we need to Fast and Pray, that our Spirit becomes stronger than our flesh...





Have you ever asked God to Bless you with His Holy Spirit? If not , Why? If you ask Him He will give it to you and than your eyes will be opened to see your sin, and your ears to hear the voice of the Almighty God, and open your spirit to receive His Word, and Accept it,





You see we all make excuses-es to justify our sinful nature, but when it comes down to it, we all will be judged according to our deeds, and we all know weather its being gay, a thief, a liar, an adulter, and we don't repent, we know the consequences,weather we accept it or not,





God Bless you for you are still my Brother in Christ, I will Pray for you in the name of Jesus Christ...
Reply:People always need something to hate, it is one of the marvelous things about them. Good for you, it is not your fault that you are gay, nor is it anything to be ashamed of, so you have no reason not to hold your head up high.





You were born that way, anyway tells you different, stuff them. All this talk about it being a choice, it's complete nonsense. Do straight people choose to be straight? No, I am straight because it is the way I am, I do not fancy people of the same gender as me, I can no more change that than I can my own height.





As for your actual question, the effects it can have on a person can last a lifetime. People can refuse to accept themselves for what they are, choose to not embrace being gay and live a life of solitude, simply because they believe that they are being immoral.





Who has the right to judge you? No one, not one single person on this earth has the right to chastise or abuse you for being gay. Just the same as no one has the right to abuse me for being straight.





If ya'll homophobes don't like it, just keep your mouths closed. Your opinion is not wanted. No one likes a hater
Reply:I know for me it had a very negative impact. I truly hated myself there for awhile.
Reply:Well, first of all, God does not make abominations! Do you know that God said that homosexuals are abominations? And that NO abomination will enter into the city of Heaven? A homosexual is a homosexual by choice, saying that you were born that way is a cop out, a shifting of the blame from yourself to something or someone else, it is pure cowardliness. As for being forced to be Christian, are you a minor? Or do you still live with mommy and daddy? If so, then you have to live by their rules! If you do not want to go to church, then, move out!! If you are a minor, the stick it out, until you are no longer a minor, and then move out, but stop complaining and stop blaming others for your choices! Your biggest problem is that you are spoiled! You think of yourself first, that is selfish, you should always put others first!
Reply:Ok so you %26amp; many others say that you were "born gay". Fair enough. But the Bible says that we are all born in sin. That doesnt mean God wants us to stay there. Jesus made it so we can be free from sin %26amp; wouldnt have to live in the sinful ways that we were born in. Im not going to bash you about this either. We all have sin we struggle with. You have being gay %26amp; I have certin things in my life I struggle with. Sin is sin %26amp; we should all fight to be free from it.
Reply:It's not an illness or a birth defect, but according to the Bible, it is a sin. A forgivable sin. Many believe it is the unforgivable sin or they treat homosexuals that way.





In Romans 1: 24-end. God pulls away His hand of protection and they turn to sin even more. Lusting for one another and abandoning the natural use of the other sex.





"Christians" and "professing Christians" sometimes can be somewhat judgmental in their speech. That's true for all sorts of sin. Christ said, "Judge NOT, least you be judged." I believe wholeheartedly that means that you should not be pointing the finger of judgment to sending someone to Hell. Yet He in the same passage He tells us to judge someone by their works. So we must have some discernment.





I hate homosexuality, but try my hardest to overlook and reach out in love to homosexuals. I try to see past the sin and treat them as with mercy as Jesus did for me.





I cannot apologize for your family or make excuses. I hope though that if God reaches out for you and makes Himself and His ways known to you that you realize the true love that He has for you. You will not forsake Him for anything that others may have misrepresented to you.
Reply:you did good all I got to say %26lt;once you stop hurting people you stop hurting inside%26gt; toolbar654 said that IT,S YOUR LIFE LIVE IN PEASE
Reply:Good for you. Be true to your own convictions.
Reply:That is a very moving story. Thanks for sharing it with us. I'm glad your parents have come around and that you had the intestinal fortitude to survive. You're a very strong person.





One thing tho. No one can "force" you to become a Christian. That's strickly a matter between you and God. They can force you into a particular religion or denomination. There is a huge difference.





Wish you the best for the rest of your life.
Reply:**** religion, you be what you be..But gays are wierd BTW.
Reply:No one is born gay. Do pedaphiles have a child molesting gene?Do rapists have a rape gene? Do Adulterers have an adultery gene? Do beastisality people have a beastility gene?