"slight problem"?

so we all know I am going to college next year! Or for those of you who don't know i'm going to Penn State next year! I'm very excited and i decided to join a group called "face book" I started talking to one student whom i found "attractive" by his pictures and asked him how he liked the campus etc. We've been talking since January and we agreed that next year (he's a freshman right now) When he's a sophomore and i'm a freshman we'll grab something to eat. We got into more intense conversations about boyfriends and girlfriends and i asked him why someone as good looking as himself was not in a relationship? He told me it was because he hadn't really "found" the right girl and wasn't going to force himself into a relationship and that love would just find a way and if it happened it happened. He also told me he found me to be very cute from my pictures.





ONE PROBLEM I have a boyfriend


I've been with him for a year and 6 months and he's going to be 4 hours away! What do i do?

"slight problem"?
don't jump into conclusions with this new "web friend" you don't even know him... how do u feel towards ur bf? do u love him? do u want to be in a relationship once you get to college? this are things you need to ask yourself to make a decision don't just base it in a new boy.... then you will feel bad if what ever your thinking might happen wont... college is meant to be a fun experience parties, football games, hanging out.. so just weigh your needs =)
Reply:First of all Congrats for getting into Penn State, I graduated from Main Campus -- I hope you love it, I did!


Getting back to your question at this point you and your boyfriend need to talk about where your relationship is headed. Are you going to try and do the long distance thing? What do you each consider cheating? How often will you be seeing each other, things like that.


Your facebook friend is a great way to learn more about penn state but you can always go on tours on campus and if you havent already got in contact with the 'Lion Ambassadors' do so, they are a great resource as well.


It seems nice to already have a new friend, and lunch is fine but remember to be smart about this. Meet in a public place and let your roomate know where youre going or invite her along. You only know what he's told you about himself, and let me tell you from penn state experience they always dont tell the truth.


College is great, there are new people, new hobbies and new experiences waiting for you. Enjoy it!
Reply:stay committed to your boyfriend, maybe it's just the temptation of a college guy, something new and exciting
Reply:do your boyfriend a favor and break up with him..cuz you have emotionally cheated on ur bf already..even just thinking about this new guy..and when you get to college you will go there and cheat on him..so break up with your bf.
Reply:you are going to collage way from him 4 hours away. long distance relationships are hard. you are young. experience new things with new people. if its meant to be then you guys will find a way to be back into each others arms.
Reply:All the answers so far are very right, even if they are so very different.





It all depends on you. Have you ever been in a situation where your boyfriend was not around and someone was hitting on you? What did you do then?





I guess your main concern is that he will be so far away that you will not be able to control your emotions if someone else comes along. That being so far away you won't get your fix of him and it might lead you astray.





A year + is decent time involved but you are very young and if you have not talked of commitment or your plans for the future you may just be worrying about nothing anyway.





Also, have you thought about what he will be doing while you are gone?





Ask him straight out what does he think will happen. If you both cared enough you should have already had this talk. It would come naturally to you. If not, then I think your best bet is to tell him since you will be so far away maybe you should put the relationship on hold just to see what happends.





You will know by his attitude whether he is worth keeping or not.
Reply:Love him or leave him.
Reply:Break with him, you will just cheat on him and break his heart.
Reply:What if the shoe was on the other foot. What if it was your bf who was talking to a girl the same way you are talking to this guy. Besides from experience college guys say and do anything to get what they want. Tell him you can be friends but he had to understand that you are in a realtionship now and starting college is hard enough without the whole relationship thing. Concentrate on your studies and the rest will take care of itself. Penn State congrats on that take advantage of a great opportunity for a great education that will help you in the future more than a realtionsip will.
Reply:PENN STATE right here!!





OK. You have disrespected your current bf by using anothers attractiveness as a qualifier to start a conversation, your going to one of the best schools in the USA, ditch your current BF before you go out there.





Do not ever ask someone else this again! "i asked him why someone as good looking as himself was not in a relationship? " Because your making a poor assumption that everyone who is attractive should be in a relationsip, this is closed minded thinking, but that is the more of a HS thing, so its ok for now.





Enjoy your last years of HS. PSU will be the time of your life, dont spend most of it preoccupied about frat boys or men in general. Be your self, not a creature of the herd.





Keep an eye out for me at the football games, I will be the guy in the blue!